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A Day Without Gays

I’ve heard talk of a Day Without Gays in America for today. Ya know the drill, if you are gay you don’t go to work today so that the *other* people can realize the force that the GLBT community is... No, I’m not taking part in this, but I will take a moment for my soapbox.

I am a bisexual woman. I have loved both men and women. At this point in my life I am amazingly in love with a wonderful man who accepts me for who I am and helps me strive to be a better person. We live together and are hoping to start our own family in the not so distant future; At that point we will live a relatively stereotypical life wherein he works and I stay home to raise the children for a few years. I don’t want to date anyone else, male or female, my boyfriend is all that I need in this department.

So, am I still bisexual? Yup. Do the laws that outlaw gay marriage, adoption, etc effect me? They sure do. I didn’t choose my partner based on gender. I could just as easily be in a relationship with a woman. Do I need to announce it, well not for my daily life to go on, but I do feel it important to have out there. This is a part of who I am. This is a part of many people I know and don’t know and hatred and laws against homosexuality touch these people on a daily basis. Sometimes violently. Sometimes subtly. Sometimes via laws and legislation. Sometimes in offhand comments like, “That’s so gay,” to mean it’s stupid.

Maybe it’s because I live in my own liberal mind, but I can’t *comprehend* how gay marriage is so bad to heterosexual couples. I can’t comprehend of a God that is so angry that LOVE between two people is bad. Thankfully, my church (Episcopal) does have people (including my uncle, a priest) who believe in love and are willing to bless same-sex marriages. If this wasn’t the case I would cease any affiliation with the church. Love is a good thing. Wherever you find it in an adult consenting manner.

I am at work today but I’m announcing my gay for the few of you who don’t know it.